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Don’t Be a Bench-er!

Don’t Be a Bench-er!

Have you ever been on a merry-go-round and seen the people who sit on the bench? You know, there are the benches and then there are the horses that go up and down. The “benchers” like to sit still and go around and around without movement. The “benchers” puzzle me…

Over the weekend, I tried multiple times to clean my house. Now, I am able to keep the downstairs clean because if I have company that’s where people will go. The upstairs, however, resembles an A&E show that will remain unnamed. After multiple attempts, I stopped trying to clean the house; instead I chose to turn my attention back onto my kids. We left the house and picked up a friend and we headed to the mall for the evening. I had a great time hanging out at the mall laughing and talking and chasing after my son. When I returned home, guess what? THE UPSTAIRS WAS STILL A MESS! Wait a minute; NO ONE CLEANED UP MY HOUSE WHILE I WAS GONE?! Nope, they didn’t and I’m fine with that. I’m okay with the decision I made to abandon ship and enjoy the evening with a friend and Two Live Crew (my nickname for my kids).

What is the takeaway from this? Well, for those of you who are neat freaks, your takeaway may be that my priorities are out of sync and that I need to go home and straighten up my house. In fact, I’m 100% positive that if my mother reads this she will shake her head. But, for those who juggle a career, volunteering, kids, a spouse, single life, pets, etc. (yep, that’s pretty much everyone), I hope you realize one thing. LIFE IS NOT PROMISED! I wasn’t guaranteed a wakeup call from God this morning, on THIS side of Earth and if I woke up in Heaven this morning I’m pretty sure God wasn’t going to drill me on the cleanliness of my bedroom. You have one time and that’s it; no do overs! For me, the mall was a choice I made to enjoy Saturday. I have a friend who packed up and along with her son, moved to Abu Dhabi. I have a friend who juggles work, a husband, kids and a career ALL while pursuing her PhD. I have a friend who is working night and day to launch her business. I have friend who chooses to the hit the gym early in the morning to reach her goals. I have a friend who is thinking about leaving behind everything she has grown to love and know, to follow her husband to Bahrain for a few years. I have a friend who walked away from her comfortable job with benefits to pursue her passion in the restaurant industry. I have a friend who pursued the military which meant leaving her beautiful kids for a few weeks for basic training. I have a friend who after experiencing heartbreak, she still uses the hashtag, #LivLyfe, and she does EVERY moment she gets!

For me, it was simply going to the mall on a Saturday. For others, it is something larger, although it doesn’t have to be. The point is, get off the bench and do something! Ask God for direction and then get up and MOVE! Stop sitting on the bench and playing it safe. Don’t do what “you’re supposed to do” and how society tells you to do it and just LIVE as you’re called to live. No, we won’t all have grandiose stories; it just may be breaking away from the norm for a few moments. Whatever it is, just do it!! You actually may discover that the horse is pretty fun!


“There is nothing better for a person than that he should eat and drink and find enjoyment in his toil.  This also I saw, is from the hand of God.” –Ecclesiastes 2:24



I spend a lot of time talking about Titus, because honestly, a 2-year old is a lot more interesting than an infant (at times). However, if you have checked out my “About” page you will see that we have a baby girl; Addison, who will be 11 months this week. Like her brother she is incredibly awesome and she makes my heart jump.

So, this entry will be short and sweet- hey, that is exactly how I would describe Addison… short and sweet! Okay, how many of you can recall the sweet scent of new baby smell?  You know that fresh, powdery scent that comes from a newborn baby? I have a friend who says she loves smelling baby’s necks because they smell so sweet and this is totally true! Like my friend, I love smelling newborn babies and I even love smelling their little clothes. Sadly, although Addison still smells good, she has lost that fresh, newborn smell (but please do not think I don’t bathe her because I use Shea Moisture and I promise she still smells delightful)! LOL…  Every day that Addison is on Earth, she loses her fresh scent that naturally came when she was born.

Now, another captivating scent I absolutely love… is the scent of my man; my adoring husband! He is now deployed. I remember coming home and laying down in the bed about an hour after he left for his deployment and guess what? I could smell him! His cologne was still on his pillow. Since that day, the linger of his scent faded and the sheets have been washed. So long for that…

For those of us who profess to be Christians, what do we smell like? Has the sweet fragrance of Christ faded like Addison’s newborn baby scent? Can our fragrance be washed away like the pillowcase my husband laid on? What type of lasting fragrance do we leave at our jobs, in the grocery store or in our neighborhoods? What type of scent comes from what we even post on Facebook or other forms of social media? Do people smell our “body stench” (hypothetically speaking) or do they smell the sweet fragrance of Christ? If they smell Christ, it’s a lasting fragrance they won’t forget.

I have days where my “body stench” is so foul that it’s embarrassing. How does my stench surface? I have days where I fuss at traffic, lose patience with my children and think horrible thoughts about people. Beyond these actions, there are days when I spend more time on Facebook and neglect time with the Lord. There are days my Bible pages are crisp because I haven’t opened the Word. There are days when I don’t open my mouth to share how awesome God is with a single soul I encounter. I STINK on those days! By the way, please let me know when I stink; as Christians we need to be called out!

May we all be aware of how we smell and may we leave an unforgettable sweet scent wherever we go.

For we are the aroma of Christ to God among those who are being saved and among those who are perishing” 2 Corinthians 2:15